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Our Minds Are Connected to Our Bodies

In my junior year of high school, the coronavirus started and everyone was in quarantine. I became very ill but didn’t know the root of the cause of my illness. I went to various doctors and did many tests and they all came out as negative. I became depressed being in my room and only in the same house every day. I went to school online and never saw anyone other than my immediate family. On top of that, I was very sick (for what I thought at the time) for “no reason.” I later found out it was my mind that was leading me to be sick. What helped me go through the process was self-care, trusting in a higher power, myself, and others, and lastly, keeping myself busy by setting goals for myself.

Goal-setting

When I was sick, I wanted to stay busy so that my mind wouldn’t have any room for unnecessary thoughts, so I began to make goals for myself. I had to know my true potential when it came to achieving them. I wanted to start working, but I wasn’t sure if I was ready for that. I listed my strengths and my weaknesses (or room for improvement). I then listed the “what if” scenarios and realized what I can’t and can control. I also needed to believe in my own abilities to achieve my tasks. Even if I did a scenario that was unexpected, I would see it as an opportunity to grow and find solutions to the problems.

Making goals for ourselves is really about the mindset. Being positive and problem-solving really helped me relieve my stress. Once, I got over my fear, I started to work and became more healthy because I always moving and not had much time to think about unnecessary things. Speaking of unnecessary things, prioritizing our needs is very important to decrease our stress. For example, on my off days, I like to do schoolwork and I don’t like to do schoolwork on the days that I do work because it will stress my body out. If I work in the morning, I will have the rest of the day to relax. With my schedule time management is really important as well. Making schedules will help with time management because doing too much actually makes me feel dizzy from all the stress. So, I like to do two or three assignments each day until I complete my tasks. I leave Sundays off so that I have that time to spend with loved ones.

Self-Care

Self-care helped me heal because my mind was making me sick. I didn’t put myself first, but I needed to. Self-care can help in ways that many people don’t know about. In other words, “self-care can help you…lower your risk of illness, and increase your energy.” Caring for Your Mental Health, National Institute of Mental Health. Once I started taking care of myself, my sickness was way easier to handle. I couldn’t go an hour without eating because then I would feel nauseous or develop stomach pain. I still have nausea, fatigue, and dizziness every once in a while, but it isn’t overbearing now. What helped me control and decrease my symptoms was taking care of myself by putting myself first and doing whatever is necessary to improve my mental health because self-care doesn’t only help you physically, but it also helps us mentally. For example, “In a national survey, Americans cited benefits of self-care as: enhanced self-confidence (64%), increased productivity (67%), happiness (71%).” How and Why to Practice Self-Care, Mental Health First Aid March 14, 2022. There are many forms of self-care like forgiving, setting boundaries, and meditating.

Setting Boundaries

The second step of self-care is setting boundaries, “Boundaries are defined rules or limits that someone establishes to protect their security and wellbeing around others” 8 Tips on Setting Boundaries for Your Mental Health, Depression and Bipolar Support Alliance. Boundaries help people feel in control of their lives and where a clear line is drawn for people. Many people cross the line without them realizing the line was even there. This is why it is important to let people know our boundaries and we stay consistent with them. If we let people cross the line once in a while, they take advantage of us. We shouldn’t feel bad for setting any boundaries because it is protection for our own well-being, but also from other people. Furthermore, I didn’t set a boundary with one of my past boyfriends and they would call me every time even if I was busy. When I told them he’d have to ask before he can call and be respectful when I said I can’t, he became very upset and called whenever he wanted. But, the right people, will be respectful and understanding when you set those boundaries.

Meditation

Mediation is a great way of self-care. For further information, “the term ‘meditation’ refers to a variety of practices that focus on mind and body integration and are used to calm the mind and enhance overall well-being.” Meditation and Mindfulness: What You Need To Know, National Institute of Health. Meditation can help clear minds, calm the body, and open hearts. When I was sick, meditation helped me clear my mind. One of the reasons, I got sick was because of stress. I was the type of person that would overthink everything, so meditation would clear my mind and release any unnecessary feelings and thoughts. I had to realize the things I couldn’t control and the things that I can which are my mind and my body. I had to listen to my inner calm voice that would tell me everything is okay instead of my ego that would tell me I’m not good enough or I couldn’t do certain things that I really wanted to do.

Trust

Trust is really important when it comes to loving yourself and being sure of your life. We should be able to trust others for our support system, trust ourselves and our abilities, and trust a higher power. The first step is to trust a higher power because once we see how supportive and loving the higher power is and the love he put into making the universe then we would see the beauty of the universe and what’s in it like people (like ourselves). If the higher power had so much power then what He creates also has power because it was made with His hands. In order words, the universe has power and we also have power. We have the power to make a difference in our own lives. Aknclowedging that we have power is great, but we need to be able to trust ourselves first. Trust that we know what we are doing and trust we are making the right decisions. Our mistakes don’t define us and we are human, so mistakes will be endless. It is important to identify our mistakes and find a solution to solve them instead of being rude to ourselves.

When believing in a higher power and getting to know that higher power, we begin to trust them. When I was sick, I started to believe that God didn’t exist because I was sick without knowing the true real reason. All the lab tests would come out negative and I felt hopeless. But, God works on his own time and I finally feel that my prayers have been answered. I can finally go a day without nausea and I only get a stomach ache if I eat spicy foods. Now, there is a difference between being religious and being spiritual. Religions have lots of rules and we are told what is right and wrong, but spirituality is more free where you listen to your gut. You know what is right and wrong and you can believe in whatever you want to believe in, whether it’s Jesus, Buddha, angels, or the universe. We should not only trust a higher power, but we should also trust other people. Although, we may not want to trust everyone; some people just want to take advantage of us, but that is why we set boundaries. Those who respected your boundaries seem understanding about them, so they can be potential support systems. It is good to be alone, but it’s also great to have a support system.

Forgiveness

Forgiveness is the first step to self-care. Forgiveness is controversial because many people believe it’s for the other person and that the other person doesn’t deserve to be forgiven, but forgiveness is for ourselves. In my experience, holding grudges does no good and only does damage to ourselves. It causes us to be stingy and unhappy, but what’s the point? We are the only ones being harmed by holding that grudge. The meditation that helped me was to develop compassion and love toward the person that I needed to forgive. In the meditation, I relaxed my body and opened my heart. I then imagined that I was in the person’s shoes, living their life as if I was them. I then felt all their sufferings and I understood why they did what they did. But, I know that’s no excuse because everyone is responsible for their actions. Karma exists, but I cannot wish karma or harm to anyone because my heart is full of love. This meditation helped me find out the “why” they did it. Having compassion for them helps me because it eliminates the rot in my heart and helps me remain full of love.

In conclusion, self-care, trust, and making goals for ourselves can really help us decrease our stress and prevent us from feeling physically ill. Being in our rooms and not doing anything, doesn’t help us physically or mentally; it actually leads us to be depressed, angry, and sick. Goal setting comes first as motivation, changing our mindsets is important to accomplish those goals, and self-care is critical to maintain a healthy mind. We should recognize the love we have for ourselves and others before going to the world and reaching our full potential by accomplishing our goals and accomplishing what we were meant to do all along. Every individual has a purpose on this earth and this purpose isn’t to pressure anyone, it is simply a dream that someone pursues. Dreams are something people look forward to accomplishing which is why we should look at our purpose as a dream that we are supposed to fulfill. Start off small then gradually increase your way up. Making your bed in the morning is a great first step. Everyone starts at the bottom and moves at their own pace. Believe in yourself and what the world has to offer for you.


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